This is the story of adolescence.
At A, life begins simple — a straight line full of purpose, innocence, and clarity.
Then comes B, the bend — that confusing space where identity blurs.
Adolescents stand here, between childhood and adulthood, searching for who they are and where they belong.
In this search, they turn to the easiest mirror they can find — the mirror of society, peers, and screens. Every like, every follow, every comment becomes a reflection of worth. But it’s a fragile mirror, one that cracks under the weight of comparison.
They see the success, not the struggle. They see the filtered faces, not the unseen effort. They see the highlight reels, not the rewrites.
What was once a journey of self-discovery has become a quest for approval.
The mind starts to equate validation with value. Shortcuts replace effort. When the likes don’t come, anger rises. When popularity doesn’t follow, burnout begins. The mind grows restless, the body disengaged, and the spirit unsure.
The B stage is filled with doubt, anxiety, and exhaustion — a bend that feels like a breakdown.
But B was never meant to stand alone.
When adolescents reconnect with their A — their roots, their values — and discover their C — their purpose, their potential — something shifts. The confusion softens. The curve straightens. They begin to see that the bend was not a detour, but a design — a necessary part of growth.
The truth is, the line was never broken — only bent. The self was never lost — only searching.
And the journey back to self begins the moment the adolescent pauses the scroll, silences the noise, and listens inward.
Because real identity doesn’t live in pixels. It lives with purpose.
So the question is:
Are we helping our adolescents move from B to C?
Or are we keeping them trapped in the endless scroll of confusion?
Please send your responses to mk@learningforward.org.in. We look forward to receiving your thoughtful insights.
Manisha Khanna

