How do I develop self-control? - Januka Basnet

F𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 is 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫, 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬. However, I 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 as 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟. C𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬.

𝐈𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐦 𝐢𝐟 𝐰𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 their 𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 of 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝. T𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬.

𝐀 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬 𝐫𝐨𝐨𝐦 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐦 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 a 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐨𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐟𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐨𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐚 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐨 𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞'𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞. 𝐇𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧'𝐭 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥. 𝐇𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. 𝐇𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐣𝐨𝐲𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐡𝐞'𝐬 𝐚𝐬𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩.

J𝐚𝐧𝐮𝐤𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐬𝐧𝐞𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 P𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐳𝐳𝐢

Handling Pressure - Savyata Rijal

The world has come where 5-year-old children complain about pressure. 

Pressure comes from others that's external, and at times we pressurize ourselves that's internal- self-created. Many children are the victims of such force in today's rat race. Also, in this race of excelling, parents are the ones who give children that pressure most of the time. They want their children to be the best at everything, but nothing can be done perfectly. Their children try to keep up with their parent's expectations, and in this process, they are super stressed and feel the pressure. 

Parents should not compare their children with others; instead, they should ask their children if they are under pressure and try to reduce it and counsel them. Moreover, parents aren't the only ones responsible, it's their own friends too. There's peer pressure to do stuff like weight loss, looks, class performance, etc. 

To conclude, I would like to say that parents have a significant role in their child's life. Instead, they should not give them pressure; rather, interact with them, take their teachers to help, and in partnership should motivate their child to do their part in a stress-free and friendly manner- act as the philosopher, friend and guide, allowing them to bring out their best.

Savyata Rijal

Grade 8

The Doon Girls School

Holding on my Head - Meenakshi Choudhary

I am holding on to my head

Mountain of expectations

Walking on the path of my life

With boundaries of relations

My balloon of love was ruptured

By religion and culture

My life is pointless and boring

With nothing to nurture

The world is running

For the rain of the fame

For their own mistakes

They just want someone to blame

I just ignored them all

When I should have fought with them

But I wasn't knowing

They play this filthy game

Within no time

I was now left in shame

No one even bothered

To come and feel my pain

Now I am jobless

Waiting for a hopeful ring

What's left in me

Is just a confused being

This world to me

is like a roofless home in summers,

At nights I feel peaceful,

and whole day sun hammers

It has windows, walls doors

To divide me from others

Nothing we talk rather

Then just useless matters

With jealousy of others

my windows shatter

I don't have a lover,

so I don't care about the haters

I end my beer bottles

Till I burst my bladders

I sing all songs in blabbers

Coz for me, nothing matters.

Meenakshi Choudhary

Class - XII Science     

The Fabindia School        

Happiness - Arjun Vaishnav

Happiness is an emotion, enjoyment, joyfulness and contentment. Many people have feelings for happiness. Then happiness is enjoyment and entertainment for me. Some people are happy when they receive gifts, while some are happy when their dreams are fulfilled. I also get so glad when I receive a gift on my birthday.

There are many incidents in my life when I was happy. I want to share one of the best incidents of my life when I was happy. I went for an outing with my family members at Tungareshwar. We enjoyed many things there. We enjoyed the natural beauty and the forest area where we saw many types of trees, rivers and animals. I was thrilled when I crossed the river by paddling through it. There is a temple of Lord Shiva there. It is a vast temple. We ate many things there. It was a memorable and happiest day of my life. I was thrilled on that day. My family members and I enjoyed the picnic a lot.

In my eyes, happiness is not only enjoying with our family members, but it could be with others also. I have had many happy moments. Playing with my friends at school or in a colony is also happiness for me. When I go on a school tour, it also makes me happy. Enjoyable moments with friends and attaining the expectations of our parents are also happiness for me. Happiness is anything that makes us happy. So we should be satisfied with any uncertainty.

Arjun Vaishnav

Class IX

The Fabindia School

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